My new kickass daily routine

Holy smokes, for a second I thought I was about to write my first post of 2018, but it is actually my second..! I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what I wanted to do with this blog, especially when the time came to pay my hosting for the year again. My conclusion was that I’m keeping it, even though I don’t post as much as I want to. I’ve decided that even if I manage to inspire one person with one post, then that makes me happy! And inevitably, thinking about writing more often made me rethink the way I manage my time. Writing more = making time = reality check = reexamining my daily routines. I feel like I’ve finally figured something out that works for me, and it includes both freedive training, meditation and yoga on a daily basis!

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Three tips for the Year Compass: how to set and achieve your goals in 2018!

Hey friends! First of all, a happy new year 😀 (Until when is it acceptable to wish people a happy new year?) I still have colleagues starting their emails off with their well wishes. So that kind of justifies me writing this kind of blog post while we’re nearly an entire week into the new year. While it was super satisfying that the 1st of January was a Monday, it kind of meant that I felt propelled straight into a work week, and that I didn’t yet manage to take the time to sit down and reflect properly on the previous year and the year ahead. That’s why I’m about to share my weekend plans with you. Now introducing: the Year Compass. A workbook that contains brilliant questions to allow you to reflect on the previous year and help you set goals for the year ahead. Yup, this is my weekend plan.

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Blessing looms or gifting circles: read this before you join.

Participants are asked to communicate in secret, often through whatsapp or telegram group chats.

I was recently asked to join a (money) mandala, which is also known as a blessing loom or gifting circle. At first, it seemed like an incredibly simple way to manifest financial abundance. It was sold as an ancient system used by women in African tribes to support each other. And you know.. we all have some debts to pay off, so I tried to not overthink it. I wanted to remain enthusiastic (read: ignorant), because it seemed like such a miracle, so I wanted to focus on the positive side of it. Or like its members will tell you: embrace it with trust and surrender, because it’s about more than just the money. And it’s exactly this new-agey, manifest-your-life and law-of-attraction language that is used to draw in a certain crowd. But are they really manifesting financial abundance or is it just an old fashioned pyramid scheme that’s been rebranded?

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Want to change the world? Here’s where to find the money.

Bernie Hollywood, philanthropist and adventurer. Mentor to our team for SDG 14!

Ever had a brilliant idea that you knew was going to change the world? Did you get stuck on how on earth you were going to fund your amazing project? Or how to gather a team of people with the same level of enthusiasm to push your idea forwards? Did you then give up? This was my reality for the longest time, until I attended Merit360. My biggest takeaway from this conference is that if you have a great idea, backed up by a well thought out project plan and business model, then “getting your funding is the easy bit.” –Bernie Hollywood. I have three letters for you: C.S.R.

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Build the plane as you fly: 5 steps

Have you ever gotten a brilliant idea where you’re like: “HOLY SH*T, this is how I’m going to change the world!!! But wait, that’s so freaking huge and complicated, I have no idea how to do it, and it’s just me by myself, so too bad, it’ll probably never happen.” Today, I got one of the best pieces of advice that will help me tackle literally any goal I have in my life.

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How to afford (basically) anything

This one is for you #girlbosses out there who want to get cracking with their businesses/adventures/dreams but are facing a bit of a financial blockage. Sometimes –no, scrap that– USUALLY it feels like everything would be so much easier if someone would just give us a wad of cash so we can kickstart our journey. What if I told you that you can create a system where this wad of cash will always be available to you? Well, not always.. Just once every cycle. If you want to know how I set up a Girlboss Fund (that’s how I ended up calling it), this post is for you!

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How to: meditate with a mala

If you’ve been following my journey on Instagram, you may have seen some mala necklaces pass by occasionally. What are they and what do people use them for I hear you ask. Well, I’m glad you did, because I want to show you how these wonderful necklaces are a great tool for supporting a regular meditation practice. While I highly recommend using apps for guided meditations like Headspace, it is nice to have some offline tools available to you as well and just be technology free for some short sweet moments in your life. Sure, you can totally just sit down and count your breaths, but the benefit of having a mala is that they are made with stones that have certain properties to help you manifest the things you want in life. But first of all, why meditate? Continue reading “How to: meditate with a mala”

Monday motivation: stop apologising

 

Have you ever come across such a simple idea that has the power to change your entire life when applied consciously? This is one of those things that don’t cost any effort at all, just a gentle reminder to yourself whenever it occurs, and over time you will notice that those gentle reminders will have turned into habits. Changing your vocabulary has a huge impact on the way your subconscious mind perceives life, and I’m going to show you exactly how!

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How to change your beliefs and deal with anything the universe hurls your way

Matt Draper // @mattdraperphotography

After my best friend flew back to London, I decided it was time for me to create better morning habits so I can have more productive days. That definitely sounds like I’m about to come up with a list of ’10 things happy people do every morning, and you should too’. I won’t. But I might, later.. You know, once I figure out life 😉

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Motivational monday: you are the ocean

Image: Free People.

What I love about poetry is that everyone reads it through a different lens according to their life history, personal reality and conditioning. I’ve always been so curious about this particular quote, not just because it is ocean related (hah), but because we tend to hear the opposite a lot more often: “you are only a single drop in the mighty ocean.” An example that illustrates this is the pale blue dot narrative, and more so, the misinterpretations of it. This goes like something along the lines of:

  • We are super tiny and insignificant compared to the vastness of the universe.
  • The aggregate of all our joy and suffering occurs on just a spec of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
  • Therefore: everything is meaningless and nothing matters in the scale of the universe.

These statements sort of defy logic. Would that mean our significance would increase if only we were bigger? And took up more space in the universe? The full version of Carl Sagan’s narrative is actually a lot more existentialistic, meaning that is up to us to assign meaning to this wonderful thing called life. Sagan actually writes that the distant image of our tiny world demonstrates the folly of human conceits perfectly. (In other words, the foolishness of our conflicts and arrogance towards each other, and not life itself as is often misunderstood). He concludes by underlining our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish this pale blue dot, the only home we’ll ever know. That’s a much more positive message, don’t you think?

“The significance of our lives and our fragile planet is then determined only by our own wisdom and courage. We are the custodians of life’s meaning. We long for a Parent to care for us, to forgive us our errors, to save us from our childish mistakes. But knowledge is preferable to ignorance. Better by far to embrace the hard truth than a reassuring fable. If we crave some cosmic purpose, then let us find ourselves a worthy goal.”

Quotes from the Pinterestosphere

The last sentence above ties in directly with Rumi’s quote, which I never grasped fully until recently. After stumbling upon it again on Instagram, I decided to dive into it for a little bit. (By the way, anyone else an obsessive compulsive Googler? When you need to know, you need to know, am I right?). Perhaps I’m not trying hard enough, but I’m still not sure if this quote is from a longer piece of work, or even something he’s actually written. Because let’s face it, Rumi didn’t write ‘quotes’, he wrote poems. And since they are translated from Persian/Greek/Arabic/Turkish, there is no way that we can be sure it is an accurate translation of the original. The quote you see most often on the Pinterestosphere is the one on the first picture above. I have found a version that is a bit longer:

“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. Seek the wisdom that will untie your knot. Seek the path that demands your whole being.”

But first: who is Rumi?

Before we investigate what that means, let’s find out who this Rumi guy was. According to the history books, he was a charming, wealthy nobleman, a genius theologian and a brilliant but sober scholar. The story of how most of his work came into being is fascinating and tragic at the same time. In his late 30s he met a wandering and wild holy man (read: a wise old man, though poor and homeless) who went by the name of Shams. The holy man had been searching for a student to pass his knowledge on to, and so their meeting had transformed Rumi from a rational scholar into an impassioned seeker of truth and love. Through a bizarre chain of events –which you can look up yourself– Shams was murdered by Rumi’s youngest son. This caused him to fall into a deep state of grief, and as a result, he produced nearly 70,000 verses of poetry as a way of coping with it.

Rumi deals with the human condition

What I love most about his work is that it is inclusive. It doesn’t matter whether you are Muslim, Buddhist, Christian or atheist. Rumi deals with the human condition, which will always remain relevant in any culture. Without even reading a single line of poetry, we can already take a lesson from his personal story. The universe seems to have brought together these two opposing characters to remind us to remain open minded towards all human connections. You never know where your next source of inspiration might come from or who might be able to help you grow.

 

So what does it mean to be the entire ocean in one drop? One interpretation is that you carry your entire world within you: all your experiences, travels and everything you’ve learned from the people you’ve met. It also means that there is a magnificent and powerful source of energy for change and action within you, which -granted- can be hard to believe. Our mind tends to get stuck in the misinterpretation of the pale blue dot narrative. This means that we tend to think of ourselves being so small in the grand scheme of things, and are therefore quick to believe that our actions don’t matter. To compensate, and superficially enlarge our presence to make ourselves feel more important -and thereby less insignificant-, we think that we need outside influences to make us better people. This means that we we obtain awards, degrees and accomplishments for the sole purpose of making other people take us more seriously.

With this self-limiting way of thinking, you are disregarding the value of all your experiences, travels, the people you’ve met: everything that makes you the human you are. Or to summarise that in a cheesy yet relatable way: the things you have learned in the School of Life, which are more valuable than anything that can be taught within four walls. To paraphrase: there is an ocean of possibilities within you, and anything you want to accomplish, you can. You know what they say: if it is important to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse. And Rumi will say it again: “Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.”

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